Saturday, March 12, 2011

A Christological Case for LGBT Ordination in Community of Christ

Here is the persuasive paper I wrote for my Community of Christ Theology class last semester.



            There are few issues today that are as divisive or discussed in the media as the topic of homosexuality.  The same is true of Christianity.  Churches have to face the complex questions surrounding what the appropriate and most faithful response really is.
            At the heart of the debate in religious institutions are questions of inclusion.  In this paper, I will focus on the question of inclusion in terms of ordination.  It is my belief that on the basis of its own literature and Christological foundation, Community of Christ must move forward and allow ordination of openly lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) people if the church wants to live out its vision and mission and remain relevant in the context of the ever-changing 21st century.
            In order to understand what the appropriate response of the church is, one must first have an understanding of what exactly the issue is that must be addressed.  The issue of ordaining LGBT people is a topic that evokes a lot of emotion from people with differing beliefs.  While I am in no way suggesting that there are simply two black and white polar opposites at the ends of the spectrum of belief on this issue, I will present and address the two most commonly expressed views.  Since it is important to have clear and appropriate terminology, I will use the phrases “people in favor of/advocating ordination of LGBT people” and “people opposed to ordaining LGBT people”
            As I stated before, there are two commonly expressed perspectives in regard to ordaining LGBT people.  I begin here by discussing those who are opposed to ordination for such people.  In a church that is culturally diverse, it is important to note the belief of those outside the United States.  To understand what the opinions are in another country/culture, I corresponded with Arthur Smith, a translator for the church, who shared with me what people opposed to homosexuality in Brazil believe.  He spoke about the importance of the concept of machismo, “In general, in all of Latin America, ‘machismo’ or the culture of the man as ‘tough guy’ dominates and somehow homosexuality seems to be seen as a threat to this world view.”[1] This concept not only shapes and affects the theology of Brazilian members; it reinforces negative stereotypes of LGBT people that contribute to their exclusion in faith communities.  Another important aspect of what influences opposition to LGBT people in Brazil is a very literal understanding of scripture; Arthur Smith writes, “In general the church in Brazil and around Latin America places a high level of emphasis on what the Bible says.  …When traditional Biblical interpretations reinforce existing stereotypes people tend to cling to those traditional interpretations rather than being open to new ones.”[2]  It is important to note that Smith also told me, “In Brazil, I have not heard particularly unique arguments that you would not also hear in the Bible belt in the USA.”[3] 
This last point made by Arthur Smith is important; it connects the theology being expressed by people opposed to ordination in Brazil to people with similar theology in the United States.  This connection and understanding of the Bible is expressed in the documentary For The Bible Tells Me So that interviews people from the United States who hold both perspectives discussed in this paper.  One of people in the film is Brenda Poteat; Mrs. Poteat expresses her belief about the Bible when discussing her relationship with her daughter, who is lesbian, “It is an act of abomination, that’s what the Bible says, and that’s what I believe.”[4]  For people opposed to ordaining LGBT people, the issue comes down to their understanding of what the Bible says, and for them, such ordinations are against the will and word of God. 
A very specific issue for those opposed to ordination in the Community of Christ is the 1982 statement issued by the Standing High Council entitled “Homosexuality.”  This document is important because it remains the current policy of the church on the issue of ordaining LGBT people.  Those opposed to ordination believe it should remain the church’s policy.  The statement in part reads,
“In the critical matter of ordination, the church should not admit a practicing homosexual to the priesthood.  It cannot sanction homosexual acts as morally acceptable behavior…  If a member of the priesthood admits to, or is found to be engaged in homosexual behavior, the administrative officer having jurisdiction should institute procedures for silencing according to church law.”[5] 

The statement goes on to say that “non-practicing” (i.e. celibate and single) LGBT people can be ordained, “There will be instances in which those in leadership positions will become aware of individuals who are non-practicing homosexuals and who are seeking help in the area of sublimating their sexual impulses. For such persons, the possibility and opportunity for ordination should be kept open.”[6]  For those opposed to ordination, this was and is the appropriate action for the church and should not be challenged or changed.
            At the other end of the spectrum are those who advocate for the ordination of LGBT people.  These people base their perspective on the belief that all are gifted and called by God to serve.  In communication with me on the topic of why she advocates for ordination, Anita Mortimer responded, “Basically, people are called (all are called) based on their own unique gifts.   …And because our refusal to do so denies the body the benefit of priesthood service by some very gifted (and I would argue clearly called) individuals who are present, willing, and so capable.”[7]  For those who support ordination for LGBT people, the issue is whether they are capable and willing, not what their sexual orientation is.  These people believe that God calls the church to minister to all, and that in doing so, should ordain LGBT people.  People supportive of ordination believe that the church loses valuable ministry as a result of largely excluding LGBT from serving in the priesthood.  Another point argued by people advocating ordination is that the church must walk the walk and live out what it proclaims.  Lauren Hankey wrote to me saying, “I think that a church that preaches about acceptance and communities of love, joy, and peace should accept all of its members equally and not exclude some of them from such an important foundation of the church, lay ministry.”[8]  Advocates want to see the church do more than talk, for them, actions speak louder than words.
            As I stated in my introduction, the Community of Christ should ordain LGBT people based on its literature.  I will discuss five documents/statements that I believe should be the basis for ordination of LGBT people.  The church must begin by articulating what its standard for ordination is.  I believe this standard is clearly expressed in Doctrine & Covenants 163:6a-b,
“Priesthood is a sacred covenant involving the highest form of stewardship of body, mind, spirit, and relationships.  The priesthood shall be composed of people of humility and integrity who are willing to extend themselves in service for others and for the well-being of the faith community.  Truly authoritative priesthood ministry emerges from a growing capacity to bring blessing to others.”[9] 

It is clear that emphasis here is on what one can bring to the community, and does not say anything that would prohibit one from serving based on their sexual orientation.
            Further support of the above mentioned standard for ordination is expressed in a description of the sacraments that can be found on the church’s website, “Ordination grants the authority to perform certain duties.   The authority is given to the individual by God and by the church.  Although God’s call is primary in the ordination process for the church, the individual’s own sense of call is also important.”[10]  This statement clearly states that the in the issue of ordination, whether for LGBT or heterosexual people, the belief of the church should be given to the movement and calling of God.  If this is to be the case, as I believe it should, there is no adequate reason to deny a qualified and capable LGBT person from being ordained.
            The next three statements that speak to why LGBT people should be ordained come from the same document, known as Enduring Principles.  The first statement comes from the Worth of Persons statement, “God views all people as having inestimable and equal worth.  …We seek to uphold and restore the worth of all people individually and in community, challenging unjust systems that diminish human worth.”[11]  Community of Christ has said that it is committed to being on the forefront of challenging systems that diminish human worth, and it seems that excluding people from ordination only serves to perpetuate such systems.
            Another statement from the Enduring Principles entitled Unity in Diversity, which reads, “The church embraces diversity and unity through the power of the Holy Spirit.”[12]  Community of Christ has a richly diverse heritage and membership; this diversity must be expanded to include all people who desire to be a part of the community the church seeks to create without exception.
            The third statement from the Enduring Principles is entitled Blessings of Community and states, “True community includes compassion for and solidarity with the poor, marginalized, and oppressed.  True community upholds the worth of persons while providing a healthy alternative to self-centeredness, isolation, and conformity.”[13]  It is of important note that this statement mentions alternative to isolation and conformity because this is exactly contrary to the way that many feel the church has operated; people have felt isolation exactly because they do not conform to statements like the Standing High Council document that I discussed earlier. 
The final document I examine is World Conference Resolution 1226: Human Diversity.  World Conference approved this document on April 10, 1992 and reads,
“…[H]uman beings often fear, hate, and abuse each other because of ignorance about…sexual orientation…  Such prejudicial behavior undermines the personal and spiritual development of both abuser and abused, and denies the benefits of mutual shared giftedness.  …[W]e accept the responsibility to resist fear and hate in all forms and to strive continuously to eliminate expressions of prejudice and discrimination.  We declare our belief that ‘all are called according to the gifts of God to them.’  We therefore acknowledge and affirm human diversity by creating a spirit of openness and peace within our congregations where all persons may find acceptance and the opportunity to share their giftedness.  We commit ourselves to work with all people of goodwill to promote mutual respect, appreciation, and peace in all relationships.”[14] 

It is not just some casual occurrence to be overlooked that the World Conference approved this statement, it means that the church is called to embody it fully.
            All of these statements don’t just come out of nowhere, they come out of and are based on the life and inclusive ministry of Jesus.  This is the foundation on which Community of Christ must move forward with the ordination of LGBT people.  Community of Christ expresses its belief in the centrality of Jesus in its mission statement, which reads, “We Proclaim Jesus Christ and Promote Communities of Joy, Hope, Love, and Peace.”[15]  The church further clarifies its Christology in a statement entitled We Proclaim Jesus Christ, stating, “He prophetically condemned injustice in the temple and proclaimed the good news of the coming reign of God on earth, preaching liberation to the oppressed and repentance to oppressors.  …Jesus declared that all persons are of worth in the sight of God.”[16]  This understanding of Jesus’ ministry is based in reading from the New Testament when Jesus reads these words in synagogue, “The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because he has anointed me to bring good news to the poor.  He has sent me to proclaim release to the captives and recovery of sight to the blind, to let the oppressed go free, to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor”[17] (Luke 4:18-19, NRSV). 
It is clear from this passage that a central theme of Jesus’ ministry was that all were not only to be included, they were to be freed of the stigmas that society had placed on them.
            Jesus not only ministered to the oppressed of society, he called them into ministry with him.  This call is depicted in the New Testament, “As he walked by the Sea of Galilee, he saw two brothers, Simon, who is called Peter, and Andrew his brother, casting a net into the sea–for they were fishermen.  And he said to them, ‘Follow me, and I will make you fish for people.’  Immediately they left their nets and followed him”[18] (Matthew 4:18-20).  When this passage is understood in its historical context, the implication is made even clearer.  Fishermen were some of the lowest in society, they would not have been the kind of people thought to study Torah and become rabbis.  This would have been thought to be a radical action on both the part of Jesus and the fishermen; how could Jesus choose such people to follow him, and could they break society’s label on them!  This just simply couldn’t be done!  Jesus challenged the norms of his day because of his understanding that this is not the way they should be, God called Jesus then, and us now, to work for a whole and just world.  Community of Christ has upheld this belief found in Doctrine & Covenants 163:3b, “Courageously challenge cultural, political, and religious trends that are contrary to the reconciling and restoring purposes of God.”[19]  If Community of Christ wants to live out its mission to the fullest extent possible, it must honor and follow the example of Jesus and not only ordain LGBT people, but also affirm their giftedness and support their ministry.
            Currently, Community of Christ has entered a process to address issues pertaining to homosexuality, namely ordination and same-sex marriage in regions of the church where such action is culturally and socially appropriate, including the United States.  At the most recent World Conference in 2010, the church approved Doctrine & Covenants 164, specifically verse 7c-d which calls the church to convene national/regional conferences,
“…[T]imely resolution of pressing issues in various nations is necessary for the restoring work of the gospel to move forward with all its potential.  Therefore, let the proper World Church officers act in their callings–as already provided in church law–to create and interpret church policies to meet the needs of the church in different nations in harmony with the principles contained in this counsel.  Where possible and appropriate, convene national or field conferences to provide opportunities for broader dialogue, understanding, and consent.”[20] 
With this guidance now in place, the church in the United States has set a date in 2012 to hold its national conference.  In a Herald article to be published in January 2011, President Steve Veazey writes, “A vital part of the decision-making process in some areas is the convening of national and multi-national conferences, where appropriate, to provide opportunities for broader discussion and determining levels of support for various options. The outcomes of the national conferences will be decisive in determining the direction policies will take in those nations holding them. [21]  The church is now committed to a process that will finally, after so many years,  bring decisive action to the United States on the most divisive topic in recent memory.
            The topic of LGBT ordination is a very personal one for me.  As an ordained minister in the Community of Christ and as a gay man, this is something I am very passionate about.  Having grown up in the church, I have always identified with the sense of family, community, connection, and diversity that I have experienced.  At a time in society that so many churches are actively condemning and marginalizing LGBT people, I have questioned whether or not Community of Christ is the right place for me.  These questions even led me to consider resigning from the priesthood in the summer of 2009 because I felt the church was becoming more about talk than action, and it pained me to write a letter to the First Presidency asking to be released from the priesthood.
            In the time since the first letter was written, I reflected and discussed whether this was the action that I really wanted to take.  As the months progressed, I realized that I couldn’t leave, I needed to stay and be a voice within the community for full inclusion.  It was months before I wrote the Presidency again with my final decision.  The words that I wrote then are as true for me now as when I first wrote them, “…I am part of a tradition that has never let injustice defeat and silence it; for my entire life, I have sensed the movement and presence of something sacred that calls me to this work of justice. Even as I continue to struggle with what where I fit in the Community of Christ, it becomes abundantly clearer to me that I was wrong, Community of Christ IS part my home… Does my choice to remain an active Teacher mean that I will be silent about the issues that impact me and I care about deeply? Certainly not! What I can be sure of is that the church continues to become, in every moment, the choices of people make the church what it is. I am here now because I see the potential, as I always have, but now I am even more aware that I have something to continue giving. May we journey forward, unafraid and excited, about the possibilities before us!”[22]  Community of Christ can be the inclusive community that I envision, there are no guarantees that it will be easy, but it is necessary if the church wants to live out its vision and mission and be a church truly committed to justice for all people.


[1]Arthur Smith, "Homosexuality paper." Message to the author. 8 Oct. 2010. E-mail.
[2]Ibid.
[3]Ibid.
[4]For The Bible Tells Me So. DVD. Directed by Daniel G. Karslake. 2007. First Run Features
[5]Community of Christ. "Homosexuality." http://www.cofchrist.org/OnlineResources/issues/1982homosexuality.asp (5 December 2010).
[6]Ibid.
[7]Anita Mortimer, Message to the author. 3 Dec. 2010. E-mail.
[8]Lauren Hankey, Message to the author. 6 Dec. 2010. E-mail.
[9]Community of Christ. "Doctrine and Covenants: Section 163." http://www.cofchrist.org/D&C163/section163.asp (5 December 2010).
[10]Community of Christ. "The Sacraments." http://www.cofchrist.org/sacraments/default.asp (5 December 2010).
[11]Sharing in Community of Christ: Exploring Identity, Mission, Message, and Beliefs. Independence: Herald Publishing House, 2010, 13.
[12]Ibid.
[13]Ibid.
[14]Homosexual Saints: The Community of Christ Experience. William D. Russell, : John Whitmer Historical Association, 2008, 250.
[15]Sharing in Community of Christ: Exploring Identity, Mission, Message, and Beliefs. Independence: Herald Publishing House, 2010, 8.
[16]Ibid, 22-23.
[17]Coogan, Michael D., Marc Z. Brettler, Carol A. Newsom, and Pheme Perkins. eds. The New Oxford Annotated Bible with the Apocrypha: Augmented Third Edition New Revised Standard Version. New York: Oxford University Press, 2007.
[18]Ibid.
[19]Community of Christ. "Doctrine and Covenants: Section 163." http://www.cofchrist.org/D&C163/section163.asp (8 December 2010).
[20]Community of Christ. "Doctrine and Covenants: Section 164." http://www.cofchrist.org/D&C164/ (8 December 2010).
[21]Steve Veazey, The Journey Ahead: Where We Are .  Unpublished article emailed to author on December 3, 2010.
[22]Jonathan Hetherington, Letter to the First Presidency.  Accessed December 8, 2010. http://www.facebook.com/note.php?note_id=171919033645 

Thursday, January 27, 2011

Born This Way

It has been two months since I last blogged (guess the whole idea of keeping updated hasn't worked).  Guess I haven't felt like there has been much I felt needed to be expressed.  What brings me back you ask?  Simple, Gaga.

If you read my blog, or have skimmed through it, you will notice that I previously posted declaring myself a very devout little monster dedicated to Gaga Transformed By Gaga.  The event that brings me here now is one of unbelievable excitement (if you're a little monster anyway, if not, you may want to stop reading here).  As the countdown to the official release of the title track "Born This Way" nears on Feb. 13th (Grammy night), little monsters have been very anxious for any amount of news on the track.  Well, we finally got our wish!!  In what began as the release of the opening lyrics, quickly turned into a release of the full lyrics!!

In a time in which so many have been victims of hatred, bullying, harassment, and just all out oppression, Born This Way is what I earlier yesterday called an "anthem of justice" and Sir Elton John (whose collaboration with Gaga on a track called "Hello Hello"-to be released Feb. 8th) has said, "This is the new 'I Will Survive.'  That was the gay anthem.  This is the new gay anthem.  Actually, it's not a gay anthem - it can apply to anybody."  I completely agree with this sentiment, Born This Way is about anyone, and everyone claiming their freedom, their inherent humanity.  I am someone who has experienced injustice throughout my life and deeply connect not only to this song, but everything that Gaga is about.  I love the entire song, but before I share the complete lyrics with you, let me highlight my favorite line, "...whether life's disabilities left you outcast, bullied, or teased, rejoice and love yourself today, 'cause baby you were born this way."  As a disabled little monster these words from Mother Monster spoke right to my heart.

Here are the complete lyrics: 
BORN THIS WAY
WRITTEN BY: LADY GAGA
PRODUCED BY: LADY GAGA, FERNANDO GARIBAY, DJ WHITE SHADOW 
MIXED AND ENGINEERED BY: DAVID RUSSEL

INTRO:
It doesn’t matter if you love him, or capital H-I-M
Just put your paws up
’cause you were Born This Way, Baby

VERSE:
MY MAMA TOLD ME WHEN I WAS YOUNG
WE ARE ALL BORN SUPERSTARS
SHE ROLLED MY HAIR AND PUT MY LIPSTICK ON
IN THE GLASS OF HER BOUDOIR
“THERE’S NOTHIN WRONG WITH LOVIN WHO YOU ARE”
SHE SAID, “‘CAUSE HE MADE YOU PERFECT, BABE”
“SO HOLD YOUR HEAD UP GIRL AND YOU’LL GO FAR,
LISTEN TO ME WHEN I SAY”

CHORUS:
I’M BEAUTIFUL IN MY WAY
‘CAUSE GOD MAKES NO MISTAKES
I’M ON THE RIGHT TRACK BABY
I WAS BORN THIS WAY
DON’T HIDE YOURSELF IN REGRET
JUST LOVE YOURSELF AND YOU’RE SET
I’M ON THE RIGHT TRACK BABY
I WAS BORN THIS WAY

POST-CHORUS:
OOO THERE AIN’T NO OTHER WAY
BABY I WAS BORN THIS WAY
BABY I WAS BORN THIS WAY
OOO THERE AIN’T NO OTHER WAY
BABY I WAS BORN-
I’M ON THE RIGHT TRACK BABY
I WAS BORN THIS WAY
DON’T BE A DRAG -JUST BE A QUEEN
DON’T BE A DRAG -JUST BE A QUEENDON’T BE A DRAG -JUST BE A QUEEN
DON’T BE!

VERSE:
GIVE YOURSELF PRUDENCE
AND LOVE YOUR FRIENDS
SUBWAY KID, REJOICE YOUR TRUTH
IN THE RELIGION OF THE INSECURE
I MUST BE MYSELF, RESPECT MY YOUTH
A DIFFERENT LOVER IS NOT A SIN
BELIEVE CAPITAL H-I-M (HEY HEY HEY)
I LOVE MY LIFE I LOVE THIS RECORD AND
MI AMORE VOLE FE YAH (LOVE NEEDS FAITH)

REPEAT CHORUS + POST-CHORUS
BRIDGE:
DON’T BE A DRAG, JUST BE A QUEEN
WHETHER YOU’RE BROKE OR EVERGREEN
YOU’RE BLACK, WHITE, BEIGE, CHOLA DESCENT
YOU’RE LEBANESE, YOU’RE ORIENT
WHETHER LIFE’S DISABILITIES
LEFT YOU OUTCAST, BULLIED, OR TEASED
REJOICE AND LOVE YOURSELF TODAY
‘CAUSE BABY YOU WERE BORN THIS WAY
NO MATTER GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BI,
LESBIAN, TRANSGENDERED LIFE
I’M ON THE RIGHT TRACK BABY
I WAS BORN TO SURVIVE
NO MATTER BLACK, WHITE OR BEIGE
CHOLA OR ORIENT MADE
I’M ON THE RIGHT TRACK BABY
I WAS BORN TO BE BRAVE

REPEAT CHORUS
OUTRO/REFRAIN:
I WAS BORN THIS WAY HEY!
I WAS BORN THIS WAY HEY!
I’M ON THE RIGHT TRACK BABY
I WAS BORN THIS WAY HEY!
I WAS BORN THIS WAY HEY!
I WAS BORN THIS WAY HEY!
I’M ON THE RIGHT TRACK BABY
I WAS BORN THIS WAY HEY!




Gaga has been being interviewed by Anderson Cooper and the interview will air on Grammy night on "60 Minutes."

Thursday, December 23, 2010

I Was Wrong...A Historic Day!!

After not blogging for almost a month (blame it on hectic finals) I am home and recent events call me to write.  As you may have guessed from the name of this post, I have to begin with a mea culpa.  Yes, I happily admit that I was wrong.  In a November 16th post, Mr. President, I joined the culture of public opinion and wrote a letter to President Obama expressing my disappointment that I believed he hadn't moved quickly enough to show support for the LGBT community.

As I've already said, I was happily wrong.  This past Saturday the Senate voted for the bipartisan bill repealing DADT to move forward for signature by the President.  After 17 years and 14,000 members were discharged under the policy, the President signed the bill into law yesterday.  In a moving speech during the signing ceremony, the President summed up the moment saying, "No longer will tens of thousands be asked to live a lie."

No longer should there ever be a question of someone's capability based on their sexuality.  What matters is all who desire to serve are not only given the same opportunity, but all those who serve should be recognized for their service.  I have said all along that I believe DADT only served to weaken our military, not strengthen it.

The President has done what he said he would on the campaign trail, he said he would repeal DADT, and he did.  I was wrong to jump on the bandwagon of public opinion.  I have never been so happy to be wrong in all my life!!

Thursday, November 25, 2010

Giving Thanks

Today is a day of reflection.  We all (especially those of us in affluent nations) need times in our hectic lives to stop and think about where we are and where we are going.  Such a holiday as this provides us one of these necessary opportunities.

All around the country, people will gather with loved ones to share in a meal.  I won't deny my excitement, but I am prodded to ask deeper questions.  What is the purpose of Thanksgiving?  Have we lost sight of the intended purpose and potential power of this day?  The conclusions I am reaching may trouble you.  Maybe they will be the catalyst for some kind of change.  Nonetheless, I move forward.

We share a connection.  Whether or not you or I are conscious of it in our everyday lives doesn't make it any less true.  You may remember from my first post that I used the phrase "relational power"; well, here it is again, reminding us of something I believe we all need to hear.  Relational power is a phrase that expresses the belief that all things, at all times, are inextricably interconnected.  This reality radically shapes and informs my life.

So, with this foundation I return to Thanksgiving.  As has been taught in American schools for as long I know, the celebration of Thanksgiving is the annual commemoration of what has become known as The First Thanksgiving.  In this story, the pilgrims celebrate harvest with the Native Americans by sharing in a peaceful meal.

As I said before, I must ask deeper questions of this day.  What I wonder is how are we (the dominant, "normative" culture) remembering and honoring the truth of this story?  Don't get me wrong, I enjoy a meal with loved ones as much as anyone else, but are we claiming our relational power in this story?  Simply, are we telling the truth to the younger generations?  Do they know, for example, that we forced Native Americans  off of their land and gave them blankets with smallpox not long after this first Thanksgiving?  Do they know of all the broken promises?  Do they know of the economic disparity in our country?

Again, don't get my intention in this post wrong, it isn't about a guilt trip on a holiday.  To the contrary, it is a call to claim the connection we share.  How can I, or any of us sit down to tables with more than enough food to eat, offering thanks for our connection to others (as I believe this is what Thanksgiving is about) without acknowledging that this is not how it has been or is for many in our country?  Where's the connection in that?

Statistics from Feeding America state that in 2009 50.2 million Americans (33 million adults, 17.2 million children) lived in "food insecure" households.  This statistic may shock you, but it is a reality.  Too often we in America seem to think that we are exempt from issues that face the rest of the world on a daily basis.  We seem to have the mentality that, "Sure, they may be starving in places like Africa, but that could never/doesn't happen in America."  Well, sadly it does.  As you and I sit down to meals that truly display our economic and social wealth.

This is not the way it should be.  As a theologian, I cannot help but think of Jesus on a day like this.  I am reminded of words that come from the author of Luke that are attributed to Jesus that are familiar, but often overlooked, "Give us this day our daily bread."  This short sentence is of course found in a longer prayer, and sadly I think it has lost its powerful meaning.  It was written at a time when those of lowest economic standing would have been worried about where their next meal was coming from.  For such words to be spoken would have been an expression of hope.  Can we imagine these words coming to us, "Please, can you share some food with me?"  Our relational connection, calls us to respond, just as I believe the pilgrims would have been prompted to in their time, we respond not because we hold power over another, but because our survival - our common life together as humanity - is dependent upon the welfare of another.

It is my hope that we are aware of the true history that comes with this holiday.  Yes, it was a peaceful gathering all those many years ago at the "first Thanksgiving", but that is not the whole story.  We celebrate connection today, and in doing so are persuaded by that connection to respond in life affirming, healing, and transformative ways for all of creation.


We gather together,
one creation,
not just one tribe or nation
we now share six billion faces

We gather together,
seeking wholeness,
reaching out to young and oldest

We gather here,
transformed hearts,
this new moment is the start

We give thanks for all we have,
committing to a brand new path

We acknowledge wrongs we've done,
our mouths are stuffed with love unsung!

Tuesday, November 16, 2010

Dear Mr. President

Dear Mr. President,
My name is Jon Hetherington and I write to you as a huge supporter.  It is my great joy to say that I worked locally to elect you and it is my high honor that the first presidential election I was eligible to vote for resulted in you taking office.  Two memories that will stay with me forever are the night that I was able to meet and have my picture taken with Mrs. Obama; the other being the night that I attended one of your rallies and every bone in my body was inspired to do all that I could to work for your election because of my belief in you and your vision.
Mr. President, I still believe.  I believe your vision is moving our country toward a better and brighter future.  It is because of this belief that I must tell you honestly: I’m afraid you’ve forgotten your vision and lost the passion that fired us up.
Please sir, don’t misunderstand me.  You have done incredible and necessary work in the face of obstruction by your political opposition; you passed a healthcare plan that directly affects me as someone with a disability, and I thank you for that.  You signed the Matthew Shepard and James Byrd Jr. Hate Crimes Act, as a gay man, I thank you and rejoice at its passage.  Arguably, the most significant work you have done is working to prevent the certain onset of a second Great Depression.  Never forget what you’ve accomplished sir, I believe that our country is better for it.
Yet in the face of all of this, your supporters and base are lost and in need of your leadership.  We need you to fight for us.  We need more than your words, we need action!
I have a very hard time understanding why your opposition is getting to shape the course of action for, and the debate in the country.  In a time when you have affirmed your commitment to facing the growing conflict in Afghanistan, why are highly qualified service members who want to continue serving still being discharged under “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell”?  I understand you want to repeal the law legislatively, but why not issue an executive order in the interim?  Isn’t “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” a threat to national security?  How does the discriminatory law uphold our American ideal of “one nation…with liberty and justice for all”?  Rather than liberty, it asks people to lie about who they are and trade integrity in the name of duty.  We need you.
Many of us feel as those we have been forgotten about.  You have at times called yourself a “fierce advocate” for people in the LGBT community, but we consistently see action that doesn’t match words.  I have felt disenfranchised and hurt, and I know I’m not alone.  You have my vote in 2012 sir, but I cannot speak for all progressives and liberals.  You have alienated us because we don’t see you fighting for us.  When I see right-wing commentators relying on the underlying and often explicit homophobia to garner support for their definitions of marriage or against same-sex adoption, I want to jump through the TV and scream!!  Mr. President, it’s not that I expect you to fight every battle for the LGBT community, you shouldn’t, I just want to see you speaking and feel in my heart as I once did that you truly do mean that you are that “fierce” advocate.
I fear what will happen in 2012.  I hate to say it, but it is my honest feeling.  I would hate to see the country be moved in a direction that is more exclusive, but this is what I see happening through the example of the midterm elections.  The problem was more than the opposition gaining control of the House, it is that your base and supporters by and large stayed home.
The time has come sir.  No more words, no more waiting for the obstruction to stop, you must be the leader we elected you to be.  Mr. President, it’s true, “yes we can”, but how can we without you?

Respectfully,
Jon Hetherington



Tuesday, November 2, 2010

"We Hold These Truths..."

"We hold these truths to be self-evident...life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness." -Declaration of Independence

Tonight, I am glued to my TV.  No, it's not my usual Tuesday night reason (Glee), it's because tonight is election night.  Yes, I know that I am unusual in this, what 21 year old spends the night with MSNBC and CNN on?  Me.

Politics are important.  It is the exercise of our privilege as a citizens of the United States to be able to shape the social structure.  Really, if you think about it, this is what politics are about: the social power that shapes our common life together.  Who do we choose from among us to lead us?  Where do we see our values as a nation and whom can best help get us there?

To vote is to do what you can, it is engaging with a process where each one is given the opportunity to express "through the ballot box" what their values and hopes for the country are.  It is true that there is no guarantee that the outcome will be what you or I desire, but that speaks to the complexities involved in creating the society and world we seek.  You and I may "lose", but that does not mean we give up.  We continue to shape our communities and nation in our everyday lives.

To me, this is what our founding "mothers" and "fathers" envisioned when they left England.  The right to free exercise, yes, the right to life, to liberty, to the pursuit of happiness.  How is it that so many of us have taken this for granted?  Let me be the first to say that I am and have been a grumbler, I have been and often am partisan; but how is it that we have allowed ourselves the right to anger over what happens when we refuse to get involved?  If you have been or are unhappy with the state of our common life together in the U.S., I say join the club, I have been and am there too.  Yet today, I voted.  I feel strongly that we live a relational existence where what we do (and don't do) or say (and don't say) truly affects us all.  I wish more people felt this way.  Sitting out and complaining doesn't take active charge in changing your daily reality.  Participation isn't even a question for me, it's a given.

"Win" or "lose" is not really what happens.  We still live with the outcomes.  What does happen is that our country is changed.  The true concern is what we do with this fact.

This all matters to me (and on some level I hope it matters to you)  The future is literally created in our hands. Are we ready to accept that?  Today I took charge to change my country, will you join me?

Wednesday, October 20, 2010

"And You Have To Give Them HOPE"

"And you have to give them hope.  Hope for a better world, hope for a better tomorrow, hope for a better place to come to if the pressures at home are too great.  Hope that all will be all right." -Harvey Milk 



These words spoken by gay activist/icon/pioneer Harvey Milk continue to speak deep truth, even 32 years after they were originally spoken.  Especially today.  Today, across the nation people are wearing purple remembering and honoring the lives of victims of bullying.  This remembrance comes in the wake of six much talked about suicides in the month of September.  What has brought these suicides and the causes behind them into the nation's conscious is the fact that the young who took their lives were either LGBT (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender) or perceived to be. 


The heartbreaking fact is that these people did not see the hope.  They didn't see any other way out of the despair and ridicule they faced everyday.  It is a dark place to feel all alone, to hide in fear because you don't think anyone can or ever would truly love you for who you are.


I know that fear.  Before I finally found the courage to come out two years ago, I always lied about who I am.  I watched movies with friends and said things like, "Oh yeah man, she's so hot!"  Worse than the constant lying was the self-denial.  I fought an internal struggle where I suppressed every thought and emotion, I told myself that I wasn't gay.  I envisioned that I could go my whole life without telling anyone I'm gay.


I have to admit that coming out was the scariest thing of my life, but also the most liberating!!  To live your truth is the greatest choice in the world.  I let go of the fear and love poured over me, the closet door was smashed, never again would I let it be my home.


As I heard of the suicides, my heart broke.  I wanted so much to wrap up these young men (not much younger than me) and tell them that love exists.  Life is brilliantly beautiful, there are people who will love and accept you no matter what.  Life does get better.


At the root of the issue here isn't just bullying, that is only a symptom.  The true problem is the homophobia that has seeped into the culture.  Not only are LGBT people discriminated against at schools, we are attacked from pulpits and bombarded by the media.  Men are told from a very young age not to be emotional (that's what girls do, "you're a fag") and women are told that their place in society is not in the forefront (that's where boys are meant to be, you are meant to be the thin, gorgeous, sexual object of men).  Society at large isn't giving hope, to the contrary, it is taking it away.


I am here to say that this isn't the way it is meant to be!!  This is not all there is!!  There are people who support you who want the best for you.  Love is out there.  YOU AREN'T ALONE!!  I believe in hope.  The hope Harvey Milk represents.  I believe in the hope being shared today.  


We must share hope!!  We must remember.




The following is a poem, entitled "Are We Listening To Their Silence?", I wrote in response to the suicides:


Homophobia and bullying to blame,
the loss of lives,
shattered by pain

This is written to give a voice,
HATRED IS A DISASTROUS CHOICE!!

Will it ever stop,
do we understand the cost,
we cannot allow any more loss

The problem is real,
we have to face it,
not watch the news and become complacent

Homophobia and bullying to blame,
the loss of lives,
shattered by pain

Are we listening to their silence,
do we see our world teeming with violence?

We are needed more than ever,
shining hope in darkest weather,
I know the truth that life gets better



Asher Brown












Raymond Chase


Tyler Clementi




Billy Lucas




Seth Walsh




























Justin Aaberg



            
If you or someone you know is in need of help, please contact The Trevor Project The Trevor project is the leading national organization focused on crisis and suicide prevention efforts among the LGBT community.  They can be contacted via their website (see link) and their lifeline (which is free, confidential, and 24/7) at 866-4-U-Trevor (866-488-7386)